He said that he and his best friend were very experienced in MMF threesomes. He stated they didn't touch each other. It was all about focusing on the girl and giving her as much pleasure as physically possible.
My interest pricked, we started messaging back and forth. His name was Ben. He explained that he and his best mate Adam already had five threesomes under their belt. They were both Eventually Ben sent me a shot of their faces. They were presentable looking guys with the kind of haircuts that looked as if they were professionals that worked in offices - which they were.
It took about three weeks of chatting until we arranged to meet in a bar under the proviso that if anybody ie me didn't want to go through with it, that it was entirely okay to leave. Ben reassured me by saying I should think of it as meeting a couple of mates in the pub.
If there was a vibe, then we could think about acting upon it that night, or even at another time. As I got ready, I felt sick with nerves. I gave Siobhan all the details in case anything happened. I didn't want to look too sexy, so I wore a simple pretty summer dress and low heeled sandals, but I wore a set of pretty lingerie beneath. The boys were at a table, drinks in hand when I walked in. I remember feeling my heart thudding in my chest as I walked over to them.
However, I knew before I'd even sat down that the fantasy was going to become a reality. It was like going on a Tinder date but with two guys.
They were both so attentive and bought a couple of rounds of drinks. We talked about our jobs, the cost of living in Sydney before the conversation shifted to sex.
Before I sat down, I knew I was going home with them. I told them my boundaries. I wanted to take it slowly and for it to be sensual. I didn't want any rough sex as I found that idea too scary with two guys and I wasn't into anything anal. After a couple of hours, I felt comfortable enough with them to take a cab back to Adam's place as he lived alone in a one bedroom apartment. On the way, they both stroked my inner thigh through my dress.
I don't think I've ever felt hornier at the thought of sex than at that moment. As soon as we got in the door, we started making out. Ben was more physically attractive, but as soon as I kissed Adam, he was the one that turned me on more.
We had some serious chemistry. Then Adam slowly started fingering me. As I lay there between them, it was like having sex in stereo. I had two mouths, two pairs of hands all over my body, two horny sexy guys focusing entirely on me. Adam lifted up my skirt and went down on me as I gave Ben a blowjob. Weirdly, the whole experience felt pretty natural. Then I had intercourse with Ben and he came within minutes. I was a little shocked, but Adam took over.
Then Ben was rubbing my clit as Adam was inside me. I kept my eyes open watching them, as I got off on the experience then I'd close my eyes and focus on the sensation. That was the first time I came, then Adam came soon after, before Ben was hard again and entered me. Sometimes one of the boys would take a break and just watch.
It went on like this for about three hours until Ben left because he had work the next day. Adam and I had sex again. Honesty allows you both to thoughtfully evaluate your suitability for each other. You may find, too, that this has the attractive side benefit of arousing your dates' competitive instincts. Don't rush into a relationship you'll later regret.
If you've taken the opportunity non-exclusive dating provides to learn more about your self, your preferences, and your priorities, you'll make better decisions when you do decide it's time for a more serious relationship. Do you view having two boyfriends as "cheating"? If so, recognize you will be living in moral tension. If you believe you are polyamorous, on the other hand, you may be seeking relationships that will be a better fit for your personal identity.
Decide whether your boyfriends will know about each other. Perhaps you -- and they -- will find a polyamorous relationship satisfying. Even if your boyfriends are not themselves interested in multiple romantic relationships, they may find your honesty refreshing if you truly aren't ready to settle down with one person exclusively. Establish your expectations for the two relationships. Do these boyfriends meet different needs? How will you organize your time and energy?
When will you see each boyfriend, and for what types of activities? If you are keeping the two relationships secret, how will you ensure that one does not learn about the other, or vice versa?
Think about how your other relationships may be impacted by having two boyfriends. Who should you be telling? How will you cope with the possibility of appearing linked with one partner for some friends or relatives, and another for a different set? Determine your strategy for maintaining each relationship. The scheduling considerations mentioned above will require constant maintenance if you are to keep your relationships with both boyfriends happy. This is a factor regardless of whether your relationships are open or secretive.
Consider how you'll devote the time necessary to keeping up with your boyfriends' lives and needs. Doing so requires both time management and mental management to ensure you're keeping the details of each relationship straight.
Compartmentalizing each relationship may be useful in keeping the two relationships straight. One boyfriend, for example, might be your running partner and tennis buddy, while the other is your go-to guy for homework sessions or coffee shop conversations. Decide what you'll do if you encounter one boyfriend while spending time with the other. If your relationships are open, this question may be moot.
If you are keeping the relationships secret, you'll need contingency plans. You may be able to camouflage the nature of your relationship by treating each boyfriend as a "friend. Will they become confused or upset by your sudden lack of affection? Be aware that you may quickly become entangled in a complex web of lies and evasions. Quick thinking will be necessary -- and your moral discomfort will likely grow even more complex.
Decide how you'll handle social events. Which boyfriend will accompany you to events such as weddings, the company holiday party, or other social events? The context in which you know each boyfriend may help answer some of these questions naturally, but in other cases you may find you need to choose. If you aren't prepared for a group of friends or relatives to identify one partner as your official "boyfriend," you may consider attending functions alone.
Think carefully about your circle of relationships. Will selecting one partner to attend a given social function commit you to include him in the future? Will you run into trouble if overlapping social circles see you romantically linked with two different people?
Decide how you'll handle social media. Even if you refrain from mentioning either relationship online, chances are high that you'll find yourself linked with one of your partners on a friend or relative's social media account. If your boyfriends know about each other this will pose fewer problems, though you should still be aware that jealousy could arise if it looks as though you spend more time with one than the other. If your boyfriends believe your relationship is exclusive you may find yourself with some serious explaining to do.
Prepare for the possibility that your boyfriend s will want to share news of your relationship with their friends and loved ones via social media. If they don't think they're sharing your time and affections, how will you handle this issue? Consider strengthening the privacy protections on your account so third party connections cannot readily access information posted by friends in different circles of acquaintance.
Schedule time for yourself. One committed relationship can keep a person busy; two will likely have you running, especially if each boyfriend believes they are your sole romantic commitment.